Claims of the Importance of Marriage Are Greatly Exaggerated

ringsHere are the latest statistics from the US Government:

72.3 percent of non-Hispanic blacks are now born out-of-wedlock; 66.2 percent of American Indians/Alaska Natives; 53.3 percent of Hispanics; 29.1 percent of non-Hispanic whites; and 17.2 percent of Asians/Pacific Islanders. That’s 40.7 percent overall.

Just for whom is marriage important?  7 out of 10 African American children are born outside its virtues.  6 out of 10 Native Americans are.  More than half of Hispanic children are.  Almost 30% of White children are.  And over 17% of Asian/ Pacific Islanders are.

If marriage is so important, why are so many kids produced outside of its boundaries?  Why, in other words, is all our talk of the importance of marriage hollowed by our practice?

Furthermore, why are millions and millions now living together outside of marriage if marriage matters so much?

In other parts of the world, living together before marriage hasn’t had the social stigma that it has in the United States; up until the 1970s, American couples living together were considered to be “living in sin.” Times have changed, and the number of unmarried U.S. couples who live together before getting married has jumped from approximately 500,000 in 1970 to several million today . It’s estimated that up to 70 percent of couples will cohabitate before marriage .

Furthermore, there’s plenty of infidelity going on, by both men and women (as a glance at the ‘personal ads’ on sites like Craigslist and numerous cheating sites demonstrate).

Maybe it’s time for us to be honest with ourselves and admit that our Country couldn’t care less about marriage.  Profligacy is the motto of the day, not marital fidelity.  What’s unusual for our society are

1- Men and women who remain virgins until they marry.
2- Men and women who remain faithful to their spouses throughout their marriage.
3- Men and women who take seriously their marital vows.

That sort of marriage is virtually dead in America. We need to stop pretending otherwise. If marriage really is important, it’s time especially for Christians to act like it and not simply talk about it.

9 thoughts on “Claims of the Importance of Marriage Are Greatly Exaggerated

  1. i was a virgin until i married. i have been faithful to my husband for thirty years in marriage. have i earned the ability to now describe what marriage is? please don’t generalize in your condemnation. there are those of us who have followed biblical marriage prinicples out here, and we would like to see that kind of marriage encouraged; frankly, it is its own reward, in peace of mind alone.


    • you don’t get to describe what marriage is any more than i do. and my ‘condemnation’? perhaps you’ve never bothered to read the bible, which is quite clear on both the subject of fornication (premarital sex) and adultery (extramarital sex).


  2. In Japan, only 2.8% of children are raised by single parents.

    I often wonder how Christian missionaries intend to improve Japanese society. The American approach to moral, “Christian” living doesn’t seem to be working out.


  3. Perhaps marriage is evolving into a commitment between two people in love rather than a social construct for raising children.


    • or perhaps marriage is devolving into an abandonment of commitment and its replacement with an ‘anything goes and do what you want with your body, we really can’t matter all that much to each other’ mentality.


      • or maybe women are gaining sovereignty over their own bodies rather than being owned by their husbands. Therefore, marriage is becoming more egalitarian and less property based. Perhaps we are going through a transitional phase where marriage is based on love and not ownership.


        • it is a tad ridiculous to insist that women have been second class citizens in our lifetimes. and i think, if we are all honest, we will confess that in many homes it isn’t the man who rules the roost, but the woman. ‘if momma aint happy aint nobody happy’ is more than just a cliche. so please, let’s not pretend this is some sort of manifestation of ‘women’s liberation’


      • n 1976, Nebraska became the first state to abolish the marital rape exemption. Other states slowly followed.In 1984, the New York State Court of Appeals finally decided that there was no basis for distinguishing between marital rape and non-marital rape. The court noted that “a marriage license should not be viewed as a license to forcibly rape [the defendant’s] wife with impunity” and struck the marital exemption from the statue in question for violation of the state and federal Constitution.

        So, depending on what state you live in, your “lifetime” at the most would be 37 years. You are still a youngster!


  4. we may disagree but the mere fact that you called me a youngster is endearing. flattery covers a multitude of sins


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