Here are the latest statistics from the US Government:
72.3 percent of non-Hispanic blacks are now born out-of-wedlock; 66.2 percent of American Indians/Alaska Natives; 53.3 percent of Hispanics; 29.1 percent of non-Hispanic whites; and 17.2 percent of Asians/Pacific Islanders. That’s 40.7 percent overall.
Just for whom is marriage important? 7 out of 10 African American children are born outside its virtues. 6 out of 10 Native Americans are. More than half of Hispanic children are. Almost 30% of White children are. And over 17% of Asian/ Pacific Islanders are.
If marriage is so important, why are so many kids produced outside of its boundaries? Why, in other words, is all our talk of the importance of marriage hollowed by our practice?
Furthermore, why are millions and millions now living together outside of marriage if marriage matters so much?
In other parts of the world, living together before marriage hasn’t had the social stigma that it has in the United States; up until the 1970s, American couples living together were considered to be “living in sin.” Times have changed, and the number of unmarried U.S. couples who live together before getting married has jumped from approximately 500,000 in 1970 to several million today . It’s estimated that up to 70 percent of couples will cohabitate before marriage .
Furthermore, there’s plenty of infidelity going on, by both men and women (as a glance at the ‘personal ads’ on sites like Craigslist and numerous cheating sites demonstrate).
Maybe it’s time for us to be honest with ourselves and admit that our Country couldn’t care less about marriage. Profligacy is the motto of the day, not marital fidelity. What’s unusual for our society are
1- Men and women who remain virgins until they marry.
2- Men and women who remain faithful to their spouses throughout their marriage.
3- Men and women who take seriously their marital vows.
That sort of marriage is virtually dead in America. We need to stop pretending otherwise. If marriage really is important, it’s time especially for Christians to act like it and not simply talk about it.