There Aren’t 10 Reasons Kids Leave the Church, There’s Only One

They went out from us, but they did not belong to us; for if they had belonged to us, they would have remained with us. However, they went out so that it might be made clear that none of them belongs to us. (1 Jo 2:19 CSB). In response to this post which would have us believe that there are 10 top reasons kids (and one would presume adults as well) leave the Church.

But again, there’s only one reason. To be sure, there are excuses. But there’s only one reason and that reason is glaringly and profoundly simple: kids (and adults) leave the Church because at some level they were never really part in the first place. Whatever straw man they may wish to set up and whatever excuse they develop, theologically speaking, such are simply attempts to evade personal responsibility and its fruit in authentic commitment.

When a generation is raised on pizza parties and events and games and outings and trips and that’s the entire extent of their exposure to discipleship it isn’t discipleship to which they are exposed. It’s self-involvement. When young and old are treated as though they were the center of the Church and the purpose of the church and the reason for the existence of the church it is only natural that they leave as soon as something else attracts their self interested attention.

When the Church forthrightly declares that God is Lord and we, his people, are his servants, then disciples can be made; and the truth is, Jesus tells the Church to make disciples, not members or attenders.

But the real question is, what does the Church lose when it loses ‘members’ who contribute neither life, time, effort, nor love to and for ministry and instead simply only always and ever wish to be ‘ministered to’? Truth is, not much.

Let them go. When they mature they’ll return. If not, they were never really members of the body of Christ and no amount of reconstructive surgery can make them into something they aren’t any more than a leopard can change its spots.

4 thoughts on “There Aren’t 10 Reasons Kids Leave the Church, There’s Only One

  1. Jona

    If people were never real members, doesn’t that imply that the baptism was without value and meanibg?


  2. teetwoh

    How wrong can one be. Never really part of the place and that’s why one leaves? Is that something that emanated from a deep recess of your mind or did it have a shred of basis? If you make the assumption that whatever the expressed reason may be, it is but a strawman, then of course that pre-supposition will pre-empt any need to engage with your members. It may be worth the while for pause to think about that assumption again. Otherwise your level of engaging with your people will always be wanting.


    1. Jim Post author

      wow- your complete ignorance of scripture is astonishing. it’s patently clear that you are utterly unfamiliar with the text i QUOTED at the beginning of the post and the fact that you don’t even know it’s scripture and instead attribute it to my ‘mind’ betrays you to be both unlearned and completely devoid of any spiritual substance.


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