‘If it feels good, do it’ has, curiously, replaced self control for many naming themselves disciples of Christ. Wholly abandoned are the admonitions of Paul who wrote
Now everyone who competes exercises self-control in everything. However, they do it to receive a perishable crown, but we an imperishable one. Therefore I do not run like one who runs aimlessly, or box like one who beats the air. Instead, I discipline my body and bring it under strict control, so that after preaching to others, I myself will not be disqualified. (1Co 9:25-27).
“Self control? What’s that?” That could be the motto of this age. But it isn’t a Christian attitude and it isn’t even really even remotely Christian. Paul points out that the fruit of the Spirit includes ‘self control’ and he remarks
Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, we must also follow the Spirit (Gal 5:24-25).
Not ‘we ought to follow the Spirit when it suits us or when our culture allows us to do it’ but ‘we must’. It’s that notion of ‘must-ness’ that has disappeared today. No longer do many believers (disciples in name only) subsume their own wishes to the will of God. This is why any semblance of obedience to God disappears more each day from the theological landscape.
Now, instead of heeding God and living in the Spirit rather than the flesh, quite the opposite happens and the practitioners of disobedience excuse themselves with all manner of ‘reasons’- none of which trump one simple truth: it isn’t the will of man that matters- it’s the will of God.
Bending to the will of the flesh may be common practice, but it isn’t a Christian virtue. It isn’t Christian.